Ever made eye contact with someone in the club, supermarket, church, wedding, etc, and when your eyes met and you just knew they were the one? Felt love at first sight? You’ve been praying for “the one” to come along and you figured, God has finally answered your prayers? Stopping dead in your tracks, you pinch yourself to see if it’s real. Yeah, it’s probably happened to more than half of us.
Everyone wants to loved, or at least liked, but what happens when the person you are really interested in, really has no interest in you? There are the subtle hints of eye contact and then the smiles. Finally, somebody has to make the first move like a champion chess player. After the initial introduction, numbers are exchanged. Walking away with your sly grin, you’re thinking to yourself, “Yeahhhhhh!” Upon first thought, you start visualizing what you and your new “friend” will talk about, where you will go on your first date, things you have in common, etc. Some will even think about the introduction to the family, the ladies and the homeboys. Slow your mind down. You have to make it pass round 2: The first phone call.
It’s been 3 days and the phone hasn’t rung. You convince yourself that your friend is busy at work, but no doubt, that phone will be ringing soon. You keep busy, trying not to think why you haven’t heard from that person, but when you’re still, you’re thinking (oh wait is that just me??) You scroll through your phone and remember that you have their number too. You decide to make the first move. You text them! (Its 2011, we don’t do phone calls…..if that doesn’t work, FB or Twitter). But that’s another story. Your message is innocent, “Hi this is Leslie; Hi this is Corey; and I met you at the club the other night, and I was just sending a text to say hello.” You hit send. Now that you have taken the first step, the ball is no longer in your court. You wait with anticipation for a reply. Every notification that comes in is from someone you don’t want to talk to. Hours go by… You check your outbox to make sure it was sent…yeah it was (some of us are doing it now, just like when we get the disconnected tone, and we what?? Double check..Yo it’s disconnected). It’s now been 24 hours and no response, phone call, nothing. Second attempt to make it out of round 2, you text again and say, “Hey, it’s me. I know you are probably busy, but I was just hitting you up to say hello”. You leave it there, hoping for feedback. You play with your phone and make sure there’s nothing wrong with the text or the ringtone…Perfect!!
A week has passed and nothing. No hi, bye, nothing. For your final push in this race you say, “Okay, apparently you are too busy for me, I was just checking on you, take care!” Finally a response comes back….but not necessarily the one you are looking for…The message reads, “Who is this????” Now with the boo-boo the fool face, you’re ready to go off at the drop of a dime on a person that you don’t know from a can of paint. You rant and rave, while the person is simply clueless. Why? Because he or she doesn’t remember you! They don’t remember getting your number. While you were busy picking your wedding colors, they were busy taking up storage space in their phone. You made a stranger a priority, and they made you an option. Now every time you’re in the spot where you met that person, you’re checking for them; not a good look. It’s borderline stalking. When you do see them again, the evil eyes come out and you’re watching for every person they come in contact with. Somewhat jealous, but would still like to talk them and figure out why they never called. If the person approaches you, you’ll say this and maybe that, all just to get revenge on someone you don’t even know. Move on, your argument will only be foolish because it will fall on deaf ears and that’s because sometimes people just aren’t interested…
By: Keisha J Kelley (Diva Kellz)
BS Psychology Southern University A & M College
MBA UOP